Desperate Hands On Fallen Ceilings

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trigger warning: self harm, mental illness, bullying

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^^ Fucking THIS. 

I get really grossed out when I see people bullying others for being self-diagnosed. I understand the suspicion among those of us who are actually diagnosed; when I see people self-diagnosing as bipolar, or Asperger’s, for example, I do feel suspicious and just a little bit encroached upon. But that does not give me the license to assume that anyone without a real diagnosis is faking. And it does not give me, or anyone else, the right to bully them.

Truth.

Getting a dx is all kinds of difficult & inaccessible for a lot of people. And think it through, folks: NO ONE IS GOING TO ID WITH A HIGHLY STIGMATIZED CONDITION IF THEY AREN’T SURE IT’S AN ACCURATE DESCRIPTION.

Assholes. No one made you the brain police.

It is classist and in many cases, absolutely racist (in all cases, it’s at least borderline racist) to assume that everyone who is *insert diagnosis here* is actually capable of being diagnosed.  There are financial reasons, there are race-related reasons.  Do you know that when I was a teacher, the white kids who exhibited symptoms of autism and ADHD were often diagnosed with those disorders with no problem, but the non-white kids received either no diagnosis at all (they were just considered “troublemakers”) or if they did receive a diagnosis, it was ALWAYS oppositional defiance disorder (ODD) or some sort of personality disorder variant? These kids were TWELVE. 

Also, there’s this big assumption by many psychologists that girls just don’t get autism.  So there’s that, as well, as least within the autism community.  I can’t speak about any other disorders (though I know that ADHD is often thought of as a “boy’s disorder” as well), but there’s some definite sexism in the medical community. 

And! Not all parents will tell kids their diagnosis, whether it’s because they want their child to grow up “normal”, because of stigma, or because of parental guilt. 

I thought I was self-diagnosed for almost two years, because my parents ACTIVELY HID MY DIAGNOSIS FROM ME through my entire childhood. Even now, I’ve only got my mother to admit to my diagnosis BY TELLING HER I HAD SELF-DIAGNOSED and having her confirm it. 

So, some people may have a diagnosis and not know it. My partner had the same thing happen with a childhood ADHD diagnosis, they didn’t find out about it until they were 25. Or they may have been told that their diagnosis was different than it is. Or they may suspect they have a diagnosis but not be sure if or what it is. 

^^ All this.

Not to mention the fact professional diagnosis doesn’t always end well for everybody and can lead to a lot of complications. Last time I had a diagnosed mental illness on my medical record, my doctors used that as an excuse to dismiss my serious medical symptoms. This resulted in an acquired brain injury and severe optic atrophy. I’m lucky to be alive. As it was, the suicidal depression turned out to be caused by that same medical condition, but even then, having that history on my medical record made getting my referral to a gender identity clinic a battle.

I have PTSD, I know full well I have PTSD, but like hell am I getting it diagnosed. A diagnosis has no benefit for me. The therapies offered by the NHS are very much geared towards people who are healthy enough to attend on a weekly basis consistently and have normative cognitive function. I don’t need meds. In my circumstances, all a professional diagnosis offers is a boatload of unpleasantness. If people want to doubt my legitimacy for not seeking one, that’s really their problem.

My brother is genuinely sulking because they don’t make a large print version of Risk because he apparently misses the days I used to kick his ass at it on a regular basis.

Um.

Should I be soothing him, or?

“That’s okay, Joe, I can just kick your ass in real life instead”?

Okay, I won’t copy out all those replies ‘cause that’ll get needlessly long, so I’ll just say thank you, everybody. :D

Also,

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Kayla dear, sometimes I swear you get more excited about these things than I do.